Mops Meeting Recap, 2-5-14
If you were not at our last MOPS meeting, you missed a GREAT meeting! Here’s what happened! -The meeting started with door prizes, as usual. Except these were the BEST door prizes EVER! Elizabeth Morris and Leann Atilano were the lucky winners with the prized tickets and get a FREE NIGHT STAY at an awesome hotel! What a treat! Our steering team is doing some amazing things behind the scenes! -Brandy Conklin briefly discussed our budget and how are dues are spent. (Childcare takes the largest chunk, at 68%, crafts (11%), door prize and speaker gifts (5%), etc. It was great to see exactly how our money is spent, and I appreciate Brandy for doing an excellent job handling our funds! -We visited at our tables for a bit and ate a DELICIOUS breakfast (seriously, so much food, and so so tasty!) and then Becca introduced our speaker for the day, Ben Condray. He spoke to our group last spring and was a favorite, so we were all excited to have him back! This time his theme was “Embracing my MESSY Marriage.” MESSY stands for: Merciful, Empathetic, Solid, Sexy, and Yielded. Here are notes from what he shared with us. Merciful Be Kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32) He said that “every good marriage is made of two good forgivers,” and it’s important we show mercy, even when our spouses don’t deserve it, just as God shows us mercy, because we NEED it, not that we deserve it. He also said that since TWO BECOME ONE, if you’re hurting your spouse intentionally, you’re really hurting yourself and your marriage. Be merciful. Empathetic Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. (Romans 12:15) Ben asked us to ‘think as he thinks, feel how he feels, and see how he sees.’ For example, a man and woman each have a very definition of what a “great night” is. A woman may want to take a long bath and chat and get a foot rub and then go to bed and cuddle, while a man way want…well, we all know what our men want. It’s important to try to put ourselves in our partner’s shoes and make sure they are getting what they need too. Solid Let no one split apart what God has joined together. (Mark 10:9) We need to consciously decide to live up to the vows we made. He mentioned hearing in counseling that one partner wanted a divorce because ‘God wants them to be happy,’ but he reminded us that actually God wants us to be obedient and find joy in EVERY circumstance. Not just the easy ones. Sexy Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love. (Proverbs 5:18-19) At this point, Ben made a joke about our men touching our breasts just because the bible told them to. Haha! He said that he once heard that sex is 5% of marriage, but if there are issues with sex, it becomes 95% of the marriage. He briefly touched on one of his topics from last spring, which is to schedule sex. The man knows it’s coming, and which nights it is off limits, and it allows us wives to mentally prepare ourselves and know when we are going to be intimidate, and when we can let our guards down and know that the cuddling is just that, and won’t lead to more than we want. He reminded us that the brain is the most important part of sex, and a healthy sex life is vital for a healthy marriage. Yielded Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. Do just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands. (Ephesians 5:22-24) We need to yield to what Christ asks of us. The word submissive has received so much stigma and negative connotation in our messy world, but we are called to do so, and it’s not a bad thing at all. Ben reminded us to speak in an edifying and respectful way, and even encouraged us to ask our husbands how we can say something (maybe touchy) to them in a way that communicates respect. Just as we would carefully approach a subject we disagreed on with our boss at work, we should be that respectful and full of care when we discuss differences with our husbands. When Ben finished, our tables discussed our reactions to his words, and answered questions such as “What might help you be more empathetic to your mate? Who do you think of when you hear the term “solid marriage?” Why is it so difficult to put husband first (above self, family, friends, children)? What could help you be more successful in yielding to him?” Next Becca and Julia competed in an obstacle course where they had to clean cheerios, swaddle a baby, hula hoop, and walk with a ball between their legs. Becca won (but it is debatable whether she actually hula hooped five times or not. Haha!) Next Ashley and Crystal competed. Funny stuff to watch! We ended the meeting with more wonderful time to visit at our tables and with a few announcements: -we will have a table at the bake sale for the Heroes of Midlothian 5k -MNO and playdates have been scheduled, so check the MOPS page for the deets -next meeting will be February 19th, and we’ll be make date night jars Suzette closed for us in prayer, and then we all went and got our sweet babies, as better mommies than we were when we dropped them off. Mops time is the best time!